Monday, September 25, 2006

Cheating Signs: How People Get Away With Infidelity

I'm not going to waste any time here.

So here it goes.

One word.

MANIPULATION.

One of the biggest mistakes people make when they think
they're being cheated on is allowing themselves to be
manipulated.

This is where you start to think that you're being cheated
on, but your better half convinces you that you're not.

What you need to know is that men and women manipulate
differently.

Women manipulate men physically.

They do this by using their bodies (think SEX here).

A woman can pretty much get a man to think or do whatever
they want by offering sex, or at least physical contact.

For example, if you're a man and your woman starts to think
that you're "catching on" to what she's doing behind your
back, she'll offer herself physically as a method of
changing your mind.

Maybe she'll have sex with you. Maybe she will just let you
put your arm around her. Maybe she'll just let you touch
her while she's sitting next to you on the couch watching
TV.

In any event, she'll offer you some sort of physical
interaction that will make you think "gee, maybe she isn't
cheating on me".

If you're a man, remember this....women control almost all
physical encounters.

After all, if a woman says "NO", it's rape.

The same rules don't apply to men.

Now on the other side of the coin, men will manipulate by
EMOTION.

A man can get a woman to think or do whatever he wants by
pretty much just saying what she wants to hear (or doing
some little romantic trick like sending flowers).

A man can sweep a woman off her feet with just words.

A simple "I love you" or "you're everything I've ever wanted
and more" can emotionally melt most women.

So these are the things you need to watch out for.

If you think your lover is cheating on you, and then all of
a sudden they do something "to make everything alright", you
my friend have just been manipulated.

I know of men (who's wives or girlfriends were cheating on
them) who bought expensive jewelry for their woman just
because of some type of physical contact.

I know of women (who's husbands or boyfriends were cheating
on them) who dropped the whole notion of infidelity just
because of receiving flowers or getting a loving message
left on their answering machine.

You need to be completely aware of manipulation like this in
your relationship.

If you've been emotionally abused or physically neglected
for a time, and then all of a sudden something changes that
makes you happy and relieved, odd's are you're being
manipulated.

Some women call this a "mercy ...".

Some men call this "throwing her off the trail".

In any event, you're letting your NEEDS open the door for
your lover to keep cheating on you, undetected.

Manipulation is a very important key to look out for.

If you're "starving" for something in your relationship and
then all of a sudden you get "fed", well, there's a reason
for that.

And that reason is that your lover may be thinking you're
"on to them".

Manipulation is the FIRST thing they'll use to shut you up.

Watch out for it and don't fall for it! Remember what was
said here!

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2 Comments:

At 12:52 PM, Blogger Brian - Openentrance.com said...

Great article. The only thing that I would add is, when the manipulation is taking place, do not pretend to yourself that the signs of cheatingyou see do not exist. They are there and they are real. Take action. The sooner you do, the sooner the end result, whatever it may be. It is better to bring the situation to a head sooner than later because it saves yourself some agony.

Brian Keith May
http://www.briankeithmay.com

 
At 1:37 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow.....this is a very heavy subject, but a necessary one. Being
INFORMED is better....because you
don't drag it out then. And keep
being in self-denial. I would far
rather KNOW, than not know. Cause
when you have strong suspicions, it
can drive you batty...unless you DO
something. Thanks. Shyann

 

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