Truth Is, You Lie So Much... I Bet You Even Lie To Yourself.

The truth of life, and the relationships we are in often times are too big of a pill to swallow. The truth hurts and only complicates situations – so it should come as no surprise that people trick themselves into believing something that isn’t true. Many people do not want to dig for the truth, or just accept things at face value because that truth can lead to heartache; ignorance is indeed bliss. Thus, people rarely see the world as it really is.

It is uncomfortable to acknowledge that people lie to themselves on a consistent basis; be that as it may, we are not honest with ourselves on the most basic of levels: who we are, what we believe, what is going on around us, what we can control, ect. In fact, many people lie to themselves to feel as if they have some form of control; feeling helpless at the hands of our peers is not a settling feeling. So people go through life with little awareness of what’s really happening, and mostly everything else gets filtered out – that’s our defense mechanism to make life more bearable.

It’s called Selective Attention – you only pay attention to the things you want to pay attention to. For example, did you notice what type of cloud was out in the sky today? Were they Cumulo-Nimbus? Were they Cirrus? That more than likely went unnoticed by most, unless of course, you happen to be a meteorologist. It’s not that the clouds weren’t there; it’s just that you didn’t notice. Think about it: as soon as you buy a new pair of shoes, you see one million different people wearing your new shoes.

You can apply this to intimacy issues as well. If you are the type of person who is pessimistic, and assumes that your partner will do the worse, what do you see? On the converse, if you feel your spouse is a saint, and can’t do any wrong, what do you think you’ll see?

Are you meticulous and detail oriented? How many times do you catch your partner being messy and careless? Are you single? How often do you see people in happy fulfilled relationships?

The list is limitless. The point is to realize that things are usually not what you think they are – we see things from a very narrow perspective, and ignore most events happening around us.

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Let's Get It Together. Try Not To Lie To Yourself Today! God Knows I Wont.

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-Drew Bryant