Tuesday, November 14, 2006

Why Does My Spouse Continue To Cheat?

When people get caught red handed in the act of cheating they usually launch into a tirade of varying ‘I’m sorries’ that are all in vain. The urge to cheat is a complex situation, and just saying “Whoops! My mistake” is nowhere near getting at the root of the problem.

If you want to change, or want someone to change, you must determine what lead to the deceit in the first place. In regard to cheating and infidelity, what led the person to the betrayal?
Was there too much temptation? Were they looking for excitement? Pin point what they were feeling that motivated them to go there.


After you have found what their motivation was, focus on the factors that caused them to feel this way so changes can be made to prevent it from happening again. If they had too much opportunity to cheat, they shouldn’t go out all the time without you. If there were problems in the relationship, go to counseling to straighten out those problems. But it may not be that simple…there can be other factors such as genetics, level of attractiveness, risk taking that can all affect weather someone is likely to cheat, making change more difficult.

The bottom line is that unless you change the underlying problems, or ignore them, the infidelity will probably happen again. So, once a cheater, always a cheater? Usually. Does it have to be that way? No. Change is hard and takes a lot of effort and insight, but it is not impossible.
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Best Regards,
Drew Bryant

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