The Cheating Wife: My Story On How I Found Out My Wife Was Being Unfaithful.

I figured that if i'm gonna run this blog I might aswell tell you guys a bit about myself, and my motivation behind what I do.

Here is my Story... The Cheating Wife

When my wife and I first met it wasn’t love at first sight, and we weren’t a picture perfect fairy tale couple. Like most relationships, we had our ups and downs. I was mature enough to understand that, and I loved her enough to stick around during those rough patches. I ignored many missteps that many men would grow suspicious of. She was just ‘stressed out from her job’, or ‘he’s just a close friend’ were a couple of the many excuses I made for her to convince myself she was being faithful. I allowed ‘maturity’ to translate into naiveté, and by the time I knew the truth, it was too late. There was another man in her life. In spite of the pain, I was still in love with her. After sorting out my feelings, and some time to myself, we talked it over and decided we could make this work.

In the beginning it was shaky. My trust had been shattered. When she really was just stressed out from work, or when she had a colleague that really was just a friend I couldn’t take it. I was driving myself crazy and I never knew the truth. I needed certainty that I was not going to get my heart broken. Well with some research I stumbled across a piece of software that has since changed my outlook on relationships. It is called PC Pandora. After purchasing the software I was able to monitor all of my wife’s doings online. I saw who she talked to, what websites she visited, and was able to see everything she saw while on the Internet. It was fairly simple to download and install, but I still hesitated – I was afraid of what I was going to find, but was hoping the entire time that it would be nothing; just a huge misunderstanding.

Much to my chagrin I found out that my wife was being dishonest again, and was speaking to other men on a more than friendly basis. She was even planning on meeting some of the men she was speaking to on the net. I was able to see the truth with absolute clarity, and I could not have been more satisfied. Or should I say dissatisfied. I did find out the truth, but I was taken advantage of, and the reality of my situation stung. My feelings were crushed, and I could never look at her in the same light. Nevertheless, had it not been for that stinging reality, I might have still been in denial, or hiding behind the façade that “everything is okay, and under control.” I needed the truth, and I needed the evidence of her infidelity to give me the strength to move on, and find someone new.

Although this experience once left a bitter taste in my mouth, I am now able to deal honestly with what happened. I was able to come out of this a stronger person, and with wisdom (and clever software) that will last a lifetime.

Cheating Signs: How People Get Away With Infidelity

I'm not going to waste any time here.

So here it goes.

One word.

MANIPULATION.

One of the biggest mistakes people make when they think
they're being cheated on is allowing themselves to be
manipulated.

This is where you start to think that you're being cheated
on, but your better half convinces you that you're not.

What you need to know is that men and women manipulate
differently.

Women manipulate men physically.

They do this by using their bodies (think SEX here).

A woman can pretty much get a man to think or do whatever
they want by offering sex, or at least physical contact.

For example, if you're a man and your woman starts to think
that you're "catching on" to what she's doing behind your
back, she'll offer herself physically as a method of
changing your mind.

Maybe she'll have sex with you. Maybe she will just let you
put your arm around her. Maybe she'll just let you touch
her while she's sitting next to you on the couch watching
TV.

In any event, she'll offer you some sort of physical
interaction that will make you think "gee, maybe she isn't
cheating on me".

If you're a man, remember this....women control almost all
physical encounters.

After all, if a woman says "NO", it's rape.

The same rules don't apply to men.

Now on the other side of the coin, men will manipulate by
EMOTION.

A man can get a woman to think or do whatever he wants by
pretty much just saying what she wants to hear (or doing
some little romantic trick like sending flowers).

A man can sweep a woman off her feet with just words.

A simple "I love you" or "you're everything I've ever wanted
and more" can emotionally melt most women.

So these are the things you need to watch out for.

If you think your lover is cheating on you, and then all of
a sudden they do something "to make everything alright", you
my friend have just been manipulated.

I know of men (who's wives or girlfriends were cheating on
them) who bought expensive jewelry for their woman just
because of some type of physical contact.

I know of women (who's husbands or boyfriends were cheating
on them) who dropped the whole notion of infidelity just
because of receiving flowers or getting a loving message
left on their answering machine.

You need to be completely aware of manipulation like this in
your relationship.

If you've been emotionally abused or physically neglected
for a time, and then all of a sudden something changes that
makes you happy and relieved, odd's are you're being
manipulated.

Some women call this a "mercy ...".

Some men call this "throwing her off the trail".

In any event, you're letting your NEEDS open the door for
your lover to keep cheating on you, undetected.

Manipulation is a very important key to look out for.

If you're "starving" for something in your relationship and
then all of a sudden you get "fed", well, there's a reason
for that.

And that reason is that your lover may be thinking you're
"on to them".

Manipulation is the FIRST thing they'll use to shut you up.

Watch out for it and don't fall for it! Remember what was
said here!

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Cheating Signs: The Biggest Mistake People Make When Reading Them.

The dictionary defines cheating as “to deceive by trickery, or swindle.” It goes on to say that to cheat is to “act dishonestly, or violate rules deliberately.” In the terms of a relationship when the above definition of cheating is applied, the results of what is considered unacceptable contact with another person are very broad.

When a partner betrays the expectations of what is acceptable in the relationship you have to be mindful that the other will feel hurt, mislead, angry, deceived, or a host of other emotions. Their heart will have influence over how they feel, rather than logic, and rationalization. Thus, cheating is hard to define and depends on what you and your partner agree on what is appropriate, or inappropriate.

For example, some people feel it is improper to talk about sexual topics with someone else, deny being involved, develop a crush or commit emotional infidelity, and more recently, have an online affair. The list could be endless, but no matter what the act or how you define cheating, the result is always the same; the other will end up feeling rejected and abandoned.

Problems mainly arise because of a lack of communication. Many couples rarely talk about cheating, and when they do, it is usually not about what their expectations are, and what they feel is intolerable. That is when the room for error is allowed; you can’t break a rule you didn’t know existed - or can you? Some partners may very well try to use that to their advantage, which is why talking it out with your mate is critical. Open lines for communication will not only breed a healthy relationship, it will also allow you to avoid the pitfalls of not knowing what was out of bounds until after the line was crossed.

With that said, be sure that before you get caught up in the many signs of cheating, you realize that everyone is different and no one sign is a definite reflector of an unfaithful partner. Make sure you talk to your mate about the relationship boundaries of what you feel is or is not appropriate. This way you have a clear-cut view on how your partner feels, and can avoid false accusations that may lead to more mistrust.

Cheating Signs: 8 Major Signs To Tell A Cheat!

Cheating Signs

My partner cheating?? Never! I mean, no one ever really goes into a relationship expecting betrayal. If that were the case, why would you trust them enough to have them be your mate in the first place? Weather looking for affirmation that your significant other is indeed having an affair, or if you want to convince yourself that absolutely nothing is going on, here are some signs that your significant other could be having an affair, and how to handle the situation best.

1. Cheating spouses may lose attention in the activities in the home. They don't show interest in the livelihood of you or the children that live in the home. Nor do they have any desires to do any fix-ups to the home (i.e. lawn care, house repairs, etc.....)
2. When they talk to you they treat you abusively or with disdain, disrespect or excessive sarcasm. They may also demonstrate an unexplained aloofness or indifference in the relationship. Or. . . they may begin to find fault in everything you do in an attempt to justify their affair.
3. When they ignore or criticize your affections and thoughtful ways. Example : "Why are you so luvy duvy? I'm just not like that." Or when you notice that they are reluctant to kiss you or accept your affection.

4. Cheaters may have a change in sex life (i.e. more sex, less sex) as well as unexplained sexual requests.

5. Grooming habits will change. Cheaters will be more attentive to their person (e.i. the way they dress, frequent bathing, physical fitness, grooming of their hair, switching of colognes, etc...)

6. Physical signs to look for to determine whether or not someone is having an affair are lipstick on the collar, odors of cologne/perfume on a shirt/blouse, checking underwear for secretion stains. You can also check their wallets and/or the glove compartments of their car to see if they left receipts, pieces of paper with phone numbers, addresses, condoms, etc.

7. When they begin to put distance between you or show a lack of interest in what has been the routine with few, if any, excuses for the change in their behavior.

8. Last but not least, trust your gut. If you find yourself needing to find excuses for your spouse’s behavior then that in itself is a warning sign. Your intuition about your life is frequently one of the best indicators available. If you suspect your spouse might be cheating on you, do some investigating and then confront him or her with what you’ve found.

Cheating Signs

Welcome to my cheating signs blog. Here you will learn about cheating signs so you can spot if your lover is doing something dirty behind your back. Once again, welcome to my cheating signs blog.